February 2015

February 2015
Wellness, Productivity, & You!
NYS Employee Assistance
Program
www.worklife.ny.gov/eap
Show Management
Your Commitment
Internet
Gaming
Disorder
Ask managers what they value in
employees and you’ll hear
“dependable,” “self-motivated,”
“rises to the occasion,” or “has a
positive attitude.” These all
represent “commitment.” Are you
demonstrating behaviors that
prove the commitment you feel? See if the following behaviors
can better show you’re an engaged and committed employee:
1) takes initiative (makes the first move to get something done),
2) keeps the boss informed on progress, 3) spots problems and
solves them, and 4) shows passion and demonstrates
eagerness for the work. Change these behaviors: 1) does work,
but lacks energy and devotion to the results, 2) ignores
problems in favor of leaving it to others to find the fix, 3) fails to
communicate or keep the boss informed, 4) rarely offers up new
ideas, and 5) appears willing, but lacks gusto.
Internet Gaming
Disorder (IGD) affects
3 to 10 percent of internet
and video gamers—mostly young adults. Although not yet a
mental disorder, IGD is characterized by preoccupation with
internet gaming; feeling unable to stop gaming, feeling guilty
because one can’t quit, experiencing neglect of physical
health, with decreased academic performance and a decline
in social and normal recreational pursuits. IGD is treatable,
but seek help from a counselor you trust. Many online
internet help resources are not reliable, and it’s better to be
followed by a professional who can evaluate and monitor
your progress in recovery.
Source: www.dsm5.org (see “Internet Gaming Disorder).
Improving
Your Relationship
Five Pathways for
Managing Stress
Do you enjoy more good times
than bad with your significant
other? Do you know your
partner’s hopes, dreams, and
fears? Do you talk through
conflict rather than bury it in
silence in order to keep the
peace? How you answer these
sorts of questions may point to
whether you could benefit from more
happiness between the two of you. Problems in these areas
are treatable, but they often fester for years. Don’t remain
frustrated. Consider moving your relationship forward from
“so-so” to “doing great” by using self-help, couples
counseling, or another enrichment plan.
Consider five intervention
channels for managing
stress: Focus, Interpret,
Prepare, Process, and Distract. “Focus”
means giving attention to what you can
control (e.g., finding ways to make
dollars stretch further so you worry less about bills).
“Interpret” means redefining stress (e.g., looking on the bright
side of a problem). “Prepare” means taking action to ward off
stress in the future (e.g., doing holiday shopping early).
“Process” means communication (e.g., discussing stress and
solutions with others). “Distract” means diverting attention from
the stress (e.g., listening to pleasant music, taking a walk, etc.).
When under stress, consider these pathways of intervention
and you are more likely to find the one that works best.
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February 2015 FrontLine Employee
Have an I-Thou
Conversation
Overcoming
Fear of
Change
Fear is one of the most
significant hurdles with upcoming
organizational change. To face
change with determined fortitude:
Accept that fear of change is normal
and don’t deny your concern about it. Try “moving your fear to
paper” by writing down concerns. Consider each concern’s
potential solution. Small things count—losing an office, giving up a
pretty commute, coming home later—see if you can identify exactly
what the change may bring. Find supportive friends or a counselor
with whom you can discuss concerns. You’ll discover solutions and
enlightened coping strategies for virtually any problem or issue.
Resist buying into rumors at the water cooler that can stoke more
fear. Instead, bring concerns to your boss and compare them with
official information sources. Read about how to cope with change.
The field of literature on this topic is huge, and reading may be the
fastest way to feel empowered and less fearful. Staying on top of
your fear by remaining proactive and planning your approach to
change will help you stay positive. You are no stranger to change,
so consider any past experiences where you successfully
overcame major changes that occurred in your life. Ultimately,
coping with fear of change is about your taking control of your
attitude and being determined with a personal set of adaption
strategies that will help you benefit from new experiences that are
coming your way.
Finding Money
for Your IRA
Finding money to sock away
in your IRA can be a problem,
but the answer, if it exists—and it
almost always does—usually lies in
lifestyle choices. You must save first
and avoid spending all your money. You
are bombarded by live-large marketing
messages. Can you resist them? For example, you may need to
avoid the lure of expensive autos and stop avoiding the math that
proves it is more economical to make repairs on a car you own for
a while. Examine your lifestyle to see where you are sabotaging
right now your ability to retire in the distant future. Refresh your
memory of the power of compound interest, then seek to maximize
your IRA. Be diligent about retirement now, and you will not panic
about it later.
Workplace conflicts
are quite normal.
However, they deserve
speedy attention
because they are
easier to resolve
early-on. Don’t fear
conflict. View it as an
opportunity to advance your relationship. Learn the “IThou” approach when engaging to resolve differences.
The idea is simple: Use an attitude that views your
coworker as a whole person with a desire equal to yours
to have compatible, mutually beneficial relationships at
work. Seeing him or her as a unique and valuable person
with hopes, dreams, strengths, and fears just like you
turns conflict into an opportunity for deeper understanding
of each other. You’ll easily resist becoming workplace
foes. Twentieth century philosopher Martin Buber first
wrote about this idea in human interaction. He saw it as
the most meaningful way humans can interact and value
each other. It works beautifully in the 21st century
workplace, and your organization will reap the benefits of
it.
When Stalking
Comes to
Work
No employee wants to
bring problems to work,
but some problems may
not stay away—like a
stalker. Have you feared
for your safety because
of someone making
unwanted phone calls,
sending unsolicited letters or e-mails, or following you,
perhaps at work, for no legitimate reason? Stalking is a
serious criminal offense with over three million victims per
year. Stalkers often appear at work because the victim
must show up there. About one-fourth of stalking victims
have experienced lost income or work time dealing with a
stalker. Workplace stalking is not your fault—
accountability lies with the stalker, not you the victim.
Seek and expect help in the same way that you would
expect for any threat or risk occurring at work.
Source: Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence, CAEPV.org (“get information/statistics/stalking”).
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