February 2015 - McLaughlin Young Group

February 2015
Wellness, Productivity, and You!
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Show Management
Your Commitment
sk managers what they
value in employees and
you’ll hear “dependable,”
“self-motivated,” “rises to the
occasion,” or “has a positive
attitude.” These all represent
“commitment.” Are you demonstrating behaviors that prove the commitment you feel? See if
the following behaviors can better show you’re an engaged and
committed employee: 1) takes initiative (makes the first move to
get something done), 2) keeps the boss informed on progress,
3) spots problems and solves them, and 4) shows passion and
demonstrates eagerness for the work. Change these behaviors:
1) does work but lacks energy and devotion to the results,
2) ignores problems in favor leaving it to others to find the fix,
3) fails to communicate or keep the boss informed, 4) rarely
offers up new ideas, and 5) appears willing, but lacks gusto.
Five Pathways for
Managing Stress
onsider five intervention
channels for managing
stress: Focus, Interpret,
Prepare, Process, and Distract. “Focus”
means giving attention to what you can
control (e.g., finding ways to make
dollars stretch further so you worry less about bills).
“Interpret” means redefining stress (e.g., looking on the bright
side of a problem). “Prepare” means taking action to ward off
stress in the future (e.g., doing holiday shopping early).
“Process” means communication (e.g., discussing stress and
solutions with others). “Distract” means diverting attention from
the stress (e.g., listening to pleasant music, taking a walk, etc.).
When under stress, consider these pathways of intervention
and you are more likely to find the one that works best.
nternet Gaming Disorder (IGD) affects 3
to 10 percent of internet and video gamers—mostly young adults. Although not yet
a mental disorder, IGD is characterized by preoccupation with
internet gaming; feeling unable to stop gaming, feeling guilty
because one can’t quit, experiencing neglect of physical
health, with decreased academic performance and a decline
in social and normal recreational pursuits. IGD is treatable,
but seek help with an assessment from a counselor you trust.
Many online internet help resources are not reliable, and it’s
better to be followed by a professional who can evaluate and
monitor your progress in recovery.
Source: www.dsm5.org (see “Internet Gaming Disorder).
Your Relationship
you enjoy more
good times than bad
with your significant
other? Do you know your partner’s hopes, dreams, and fears?
Do you talk through conflict rather than bury it in silence in
order to keep the peace? How
you answer these sorts of questions may point to whether you
could stand a bit more happiness between the two of you.
Problems in these areas are treatable, but they often fester
for years. Don’t remain frustrated. Consider moving your
relationship forward from “so-so” to “doing great” by using
self-help, couples counseling, or another enrichment plan.
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Fear of
ear is one of the most
significant hurdles with
upcoming organizational
change. To face change with
determined fortitude: Accept
that fear of change is normal and don’t deny your concern about it.
Try “moving your fear to paper” by writing down concerns. Consider each concern’s potential solution. Small things count—losing an
office, giving up a pretty commute, coming home later—see if you
can identify exactly what the change may bring. Find supportive
friends or a counselor with whom you can discuss concerns. You’ll
discover solutions and enlightened coping strategies for virtually
any problem or issue. Resist buying into rumors at the water cooler
that can stoke more fear. Instead, bring concerns to your boss and
compare them with official information sources. Read about how to
cope with change. The field of literature on this topic is huge, and
reading may be the fastest way to feel empowered and less fearful.
Staying on top of your fear by remaining proactive and planning
your approach to change will help you stay positive. You are no
stranger to change, so consider any past experiences where you
successfully overcame major changes that occurred in your life.
Ultimately, coping with fear of change is about your taking control
of your attitude and being determined with a personal set of adaption strategies that will help you benefit from new experiences that
are coming your way.
Finding Money
for Your IRA
inding money to sock
away in your IRA can be a
problem, but the answer, if it
exists—and it almost always does—
usually lies in lifestyle choices. You
must save first and avoid spending
all your money. You are bombarded
by live-large marketing messages. Can you resist them? For example, you may need to avoid the lure of expensive autos and stop
avoiding the math that proves it is more economical to make repairs on a car you own for a while. Examine your lifestyle to see
where you are sabotaging right now your ability to retire in the distant future. Refresh your memory of the power of compound interest, then seek to maximize your IRA. Be diligent about retirement
now, and you will not panic about it later.
February 2015 McLaughlin Young
Have an I-Thou
orkplace conflicts are quite
normal. However, they deserve
speedy attention because they are easier
to resolve early-on.
Don’t fear conflict. View
it as an opportunity to advance your relationship. Learn
the “I-Thou” approach when engaging to resolve differences. The idea is simple: Use an attitude that views your
coworker as a whole person with a desire equal to yours
to have compatible, mutually beneficial relationships at
work. Seeing him or her as a unique and valuable person
with hopes, dreams, strengths, and fears just like you
turns conflict into an opportunity for deeper understanding
of each other. You’ll easily resist becoming workplace
foes. Twentieth century philosopher Martin Buber first
wrote about this idea in human interaction. He saw it as
the most meaningful way humans can interact and value
each other. It works beautifully in the 21st century workplace, and your organization will reap the benefits of it.
When Stalking
Comes to
wants to bring
problems to
work, but some problems
may not stay away—like a
stalker. Have you feared
for your safety because of
someone making unwanted phone calls, sending unsolicited letters or e-mails, or
following you, perhaps at work, for no legitimate reason?
Stalking is a serious criminal offense with over three million victims per year. Stalkers often appear at work because the victim must show up there. About one-fourth of
stalking victims have experienced lost income or work
time dealing with a stalker. Workplace stalking is not your
fault—accountability lies with the stalker, not you the victim. Seek and expect help in the same way that you
would expect for any threat or risk occurring at work.
Source: Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence, CAEPV.org (“get information/statistics/stalking”).